The past few days I received a frantic call from a sister who has been going through a lot of marital issues and family problems. Her husband is a bother I have been shepherding, of late. The two of them opened up to me for fellowship about their personal matters. The brother would call me whenever he was in a desperate situation and the sister would also call me whenever she could not bear the situation she has been going through. As far as I am concerned I open myself to both of them; I prayed for them and prayed with them and shepherded them with the word of God every time they called.
A few days ago this sister pour out all the pain and struggle she has been going through with tears for over an hour. I patiently lent my ear to whatever she had to say. She had been deeply troubled by her husband whom she claimed had become very worldly. To the extent that he had gone back to all the bad habits, he used to do before he was saved in their pre-marriage life. She poured out all her pain and concern and confided in me as she shared her anxieties as she was also aware that I have also been in fellowship with her husband. As I listened to her woes, on the one hand, I sympathized with her and on the other hand, I was very burdened for her and her husband. According to all that I have heard, right or wrong, one thing is for sure, the enemy's hand was behind both of them, trying to separate them and even to point of divorce with sinful moral issues.
I only take grace from the Lord to be able to bear with all the sisters had to say. My only consolation was that the Lord would remember her tears that she has been shedding for her husband and for her family. The Lord would turn her bitter tears of Bacca to tears of joy one day, perhaps, very soon. Then I encouraged her not to take any action in herself or by herself, knowing fully well that that will not solve the problem at all. It rather might complicate the matter instead. In fact, she called to confirm from me if she should take action against her husband by leaving him for a while or file a police complaint of domestic violence. My soft answer was neither of them. But to simply leave all the matters to the Lord. Then we prayed together., and she also prayed with tears.
The same day, after the phone call fellowship, she called me again narrating another family problem of her husband with her in-laws, a case of verbal fight resulting in family chaos. What else could I do except to pray? So we prayed over the phone again. Then, a few hours later, I received a call from her husband. The brother called me up to confess his sinful situation and was seeking for fellowship. I was glad that he called. I reckon that as the immediate reply from the Lord of the tears shed by the sister. I need not correct him of his immoral deeds based on his wife's fellowship. He himself confessed that he was wrong in the way he behaved with his family, though he did not get too much into detail. And he expressed that he needed a fellowship. That's why he called me and also his wife; all of us on a conference call.
I simply ministered the word by declaring the truth in the Bible that we should live and walk by the Spirit else everything is a problem. The enemy is so subtle that he can attack us from all angles, deceive us, and even drive us to commit heinous sins. Only in the Spirit can we not live and walk according to the flesh. Our only safeguard is in the Lord Jesus Christ who is the Spirit in our human spirit. So w must exercise to live and walk by the spirit. I encourage both of them to spend adequate time to pray personally and also to pray together daily. I also encouraged them to send a copy of HWMR for their daily pursuit, nourishment, and enjoyment of the Lord. And we all prayed together.
The tears of this sister were very genuine and it sprang forth from her deepest being. I had the confidence to assure her that the Lord would sure remember her and would wipe away all her tears. The Lord will indeed turn all her tears of pain and sorrow to tears of joy and gladness. And her marital issues will be resolved and her family will be restored. Perhaps, even revived that they will become pillars to bear the Lord's testimony. Amen.