Dealing with Opposers

Off late, a brother has turned sour and negative towards the brothers in the church life who are enjoying the ministry of the age. This brother himself visited the church in Gurugram and also my family last year when he talked so highly about the ministry and his enjoyment of the truth and the church life. He even created a WhatsApp group for sharing his enjoyment of the church life. I hardly posted anything there and simply visited the group once in a while. In fact, I visited him and his family at the beginning of this year and stayed for a night in his home. We fellowshipping with him and his family when he testified of how much he enjoyed the Lord and how much the ministry literature has helped him. 

A month a ago, the same brother suddenly posted a very negative message accusing all the brothers in the church life of being "fake". He accused others of being fake when I really felt he himself was fake, as a genuine brother will never accuse his fellow brothers of being fake. Heeding to the advice of a brother, we all left the WhatsApp group. Later, he created another group with the name "I love you brothers". Though I did not see the messages initially I could at least discern, for in the first line of messages post which I could see even without opening the message directly. Later, I saw many brothers left the group one by one. But deep within me, I left this brother need shepherding. At the same time, I would not give myself into his negative smearing campaign. As I look to the Lord how to handle him I felt deep within that I should wait for some time to elapse. I waited until we finished our Summer Training 2020. Then, I got a light from the Lord that I need to be tenderhearted in dealing with negative brothers and act wisely, not to deal with him as a person but to shepherd him and recover him as a brother.

In fact, in the past, I had dealt with negative people by facing them head-on. When they accused I counter defended the ministry with appropriate Bible verses. In fact, in the process of defense, I won the fight but I lost these dear brothers. They could not fight back with baseless accusations for that will be replied back with scriptural verses. But I learned a very precious lesson that in dealing with negative brothers, I should not debate. They are negative because they are too much in the mind gripped by the enemy. I should not stoop down to their level and fight negativity with negativity. That's what Satan wanted to do among brothers. But I must not commit the same mistake of trying to win a doctrinal fight. I should rather pray and win over the negative brother sand recover him back to the normal church life. I hope I will learn this lesson this time. Therefore, I would not fight back despite his blatant false accusation until the Lord would lead me to respond in love.  

Last Lord day, the Lord gave me the peace to see the messages posted in the group and I went through all the messages. The messages were full of hatred though the group name is on love. I could discern that this brother has turned sour and became very negative. Without any substance nor proof, he simply accused the ministry of "cult" and "no fruit or practicality". I could easily discern the state of mind he was in, and his spiritual condition. The only way is to pray for him and as the Lord leads, fellowship with him. After a thorough prayer especially for him, I called him in the evening to fellowship with him. Our fellowship lasted for over an hour.

He asked me a couple of questions which I answered them all with relevant scriptural verses.  I answered because he asked. After all his queries were answered he called me, "you are  a genuine brother." And he accused the other brothers as fake as nobody dared to call him in his state of mind. And for me, I considered this brother as my own brother and wanted to genuinely help him. For some, the best way to deal with him is simply to avoid him and cut him off. But for me, the Lord did not lead me that way. I have a strong faith that he would be recovered. And in the process, I will learn a precious lesson of shepherding all kinds of sheep, including the black sheep.

Now that we have agreed to pray together once a week, I would treasure this time together, bringing ourselves to the Lord. Christ and Him crucified is the solution to all the problems in our Christian life and church life. I remember myself being negative at one point in time. But by the Lord's mercy I was preserved not to burst out my anger and go astray. The Lord gradually healed me through the word of God, prayer, and fellowship. In the same way, the Lord can heal anyone of negativity. The Lord as the Good Shepherd will heal all negative persons though proper shepherding care with much prayer and fellowship. 

Lord, shepherd me to be able to shepherd others, especially in dealing with opposers.