Marriage : Becoming One Flesh

Genesis 2:

21 And Jehovah God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in its place.

22 And Jehovah God built the rib, which He had taken from the man, into a woman and brought her to the man.

23 And the man said, This time this is bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; This one shall be called Woman Because out of Man this one was taken.

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

The ordination of God from the very beginning in creation of man, and building woman out of man's rib; bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh; and the two shall become one flesh, is an eternal universal truth. There is tremendous yet mysterious wisdom behind this ordination. Anyone one who dare to break this suffer the harsh consequences. What God had said, obedience to it will bear blessed results. This is what I have been witnessing with my own eyes.

In my marriage life, the Lord in His sovereignty graces me to live out what He said concerning the married ones. Though our parents may all be believers, even ardent lovers and seekers of the Lord with much spiritual maturity, still as long as they are in flesh and blood, the fallen element of humanity cannot be fully nullified. In some way or the other, there will be an instance of parental interference in children's marital affair, intentionally or unintentionally. This intrusion, the enemy utilizes it to sow the seed of discord and doubts, yielding into family turbulence.  

Recently, I have come across at least two real-life cases in which because of the parental interference, the marriage life of two precious brothers are in deep trouble. Not that they don't love one another, not that they are not made for each other, but their parental interference made their marriage lives a "too many cooks spoil the broth." One of them have already been divorced legally, even ensuing in bitter hatred towards one another when it should have been a sweet love for one another. The other one is on the process of filing a divorce case. What a shame that this should befall on a Christian home! These two families have never been into the church-life nor fully enjoyed the riches of Christ though presented to them. In both cases, brothers in their localities have tried their best to shepherd them, but they just stick themselves to their degraded denominational church membership without any subjective experiences of the crucified Christ nor the resurrected Christ.   

Last weekend, my portion of sharing was on "the building up between husband and wife." When it was informed to me about this message, I was at awe and wonder how I could share on this message; I am still too young to speak on this subject, I have not had enough experience as yet. Anyway, I took as it was from the Lord and prayed over it. And the Lord blessed the speaking. I myself was enlightened to see some deeper truths concerning a marriage life on sharing the message. My wife echoed right after the sharing and two couples followed suit with their marriage-life testimonies. Then, later I realized it was the Lord's ordination too for me to share on this message.

"The two shall become one flesh; she is bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh" is a perfect picture of the building up between husband and wife. The more couples are builded up, the more they become one; yes one in every matter concerning their marriage lives. This however does not mean that they should be cut off from their natural relation completely. That natural relationship will still remain by default, but the point here is the "unnecessary interference," which must be avoided at all cost. Honoring, respecting and obeying the parents still holds true and must be strictly adhered too; but not at the cost of breaking God's ordination of "the two shall become one." This divine wisdom, only those who live it out will experience and enjoy the blessing associated with it.

O what a blessing to learn this lesson! For a God-man family life for the Lord's testimony.

Lord, grace us to be built up in our marriage life as a type and testimony of Christ and the church.