Being Daddy

Though I am a father of three now, still my feeling often times is that of a single. Being a young adult, learning the art of fathering, if there is such a thing, I am still looking to the Lord for more maturity and more growth in life. 

Lessons of life are not learned in text books nor taught in school nor university. They are learned in life as life goes on and grows and develops. I am one such ardent student in the school of life. Learning and learning, especially of "being daddy."

An incident with my son a month ago was an eye opening to me. One day, he told a story to a sister of which he himself was the main character of the story. In it, he narrated, he was not loved by his parents as their love were more for the girls in the family, and that led him to dejection. So, he went to his neighbor and played with their children instead, to find love. This story was narrated by that sister to my wife and then on to me. Later, I asked my son if he ever told such a story, and to confirm, I asked him to narrate the same story to me. Indeed, it was true. 

In fellowship with my wife, we decided to treat all our children equally as much as possible and not to give ground to any emotional distortion, which is the attack point of the enemy. Since then, I learned my lesson of showering same and equal love to all of them. Though sometimes, it may not be perfectly possible as they differ in age and gender, the way of care and concern will differ. But to not give an iota of doubt in their minds that that were treated unequally. This lesson "prefected" me in the lesson of "being daddy".

Thank God, I learn this at least now, when they all are still young. Looking back at my own life, I felt the same thing. What I used to feel as a son of my parent, is what my son is feeling now. Henceforth, I am doing my best to spend as much time as possible with my kids, especially, my son. To make them feel and realize that I do love them, and indeed love them very dearly and equally. 

Lesson of "being daddy" is quite interesting and challenging. Time will tell how well I learn this lesson, perhaps, when all my children grow up. As a student in the school of life, I only look to the Lord for His mercy and blessing, and also trust His grace will teach all the lessons of "being daddy".