Proposal Paradox

One thing we have been struggling to break through among the single saints here in the church in Gurugram is helping them in their marriage matters. As one of the church brothers, I have been so burdened to help the unmarried brothers and sisters find a match and get them married. But the hardest part is to help them settle with someone that satisfies them. Time and tide waits for none. As they keep waiting to find the "perfect" match they have been aging. Year by year, they are aging and are not even ready to settle down with anyone. 

To me, marriage is easy to settle as long as I am clear of the Lord's perfect leading. That's exactly how the Lord led me. Once I was clear with the person the Lord had chosen for me, I just said amen. Even I had to deny my soul life in this matter. What the Lord arranged for me is the best. And as I went ahead with the Lord's arrangement, I have been enjoying all the blessings the Lord bestowed on my family. In a similar manner, I have been trying to help the unmarried saints, but they seem to have altogether different opinions.

As a brother in the church, I along with other brothers have approached a couple of brothers and sisters to fellowship with them regarding their marriage proposal. In fact, we have even started with two brothers. Sadly enough, these brothers have squarely or subtly denied the proposals. On the one hand, they profess their urgent need to get married and seem to be open to fellowship, yet on the other hand, they have their own preferences which they did not reveal either. When we brought sisters for a proposal, they denied them. 

With one brother we have even gone to introduce the sister face to face, online though, but for some minute reasons he backed off. I am stuck at the horn of dilemma, to propose or not to propose any longer. God, help us!

This was so disheartening. The sisters we proposed were quite good, at least according to my understanding. For I see them as a sister in the Lord. I don't know what these brothers were looking for or what were they expecting their future wife to be. Sometimes they seem to indicate they need help, and when we put our hands to help, they reject it. They profess that they need to get married and will be willing to get married to sisters in church life, but when we propose sisters in the church life, they reject stating their own reasons. What a paradox! I call this a proposal paradox.

Sometimes I thought to myself, if I were not yet married and were in their shoes, I would have married multiple times already, assuming I put on their shoes; whoever was proposed I would just say amen. I failed to understand what stopped them from getting married. What are they looking and waiting for? At their age, I have already become a father. Yet they still do not seem to bother about their marriage at all. Sometimes, I wonder, have we been cursed? Of course not. But I do hope that the Lord will come in and renew all of their minds and bring them to be a plain paper where He can write whatever name He wishes to, and they all say amen to the Lord's sovereign arrangement.

May the Lord have mercy on all these single saints and grace them with perfect matching partners; to be established in their human life and become pillars for the Lord's testimony.