For all big and important matters we are very serious and exercise our spirit to pray. Especially in prophesying, gospel preaching, shepherding or contacting people or giving messages or fellowshipping with the fellow believers. That's very good. How about doing the same in small, minute and less significant matters like talking to our spouses or children? In fact, these are the areas where we need more grace. Our reflex actions are our genuine personality. It is in small things where the fall begins.
I have been so convicted recently of my shortcoming in the matter of speaking. An after-thought speakings all have been carefully worded with much sobriety, soberness and sincerity. But cases are not always as these. Mostly, it have been of instant utterances or reactions to actions. The ministry speaking helps me in this matter that I need much more grace in my speaking; if I can find grace in my speaking, I can possibly find grace in all things else.
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but only that which is good for building up, according to the need, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29
Often whatever proceeds out of our mouth and that does not minister Christ to the hearer are all "corrupt words". Yes, words that do not proceed from the spirit within, words that are not of the Lord and words that do not supply grace are all "corrupt words". How many such corrupt words have I spoken thus far? The Lord cover me with His blood.
The Lord convicted me also in at least five cases where I have not ministered words of grace. In my natural concept, I have recommended certain brothers as "very good brothers" for the Lord's testimony. But later they all do not turn out to be as good as I thought. In fact, they all seem to be "problematic" and are of "rebellious" in nature. Nevertheless, I keep praying for them. But the lesson I learned is marvelous. My thoughts, my opinions or my proposals are all natural. I was exposed and I learned not to praise nor backbite anyone; rather I must exercise to be one with the Lord and express His feelings only, with words of grace. This experience taught me not to be over excited or exaggerate on any good points of someone naturally, nor criticize or backbite bitterly. Rather leave every matter to the Lord and let Him speak in His own time with His own words.
Another big matter is that when one is not even aware of his speech and it has been hurting others unintentionally and unknowingly. What a great danger this is!
Finding grace in the matter of speaking is a great grace indeed. Since this experience my prayer has been that "no corrupt word proceed out of my mouth, but only that which is good for building up, according to the need, that it may give grace to those who hear".
O, word of grace be my speaking everyday!
Yea, words that minsters Christ!
Yea, words that builds up!
Words, full of grace!